Sunday, June 1, 2014

Boys will be boys



My inspiration for this post comes from this article I read from my facebook news feed.
Don't you hate that saying?  I heard it all the time growing up.

"Oh, he hit you, that means he likes you!"

 That echos through our innocent ears like the plague, we learn this, we actually believe its true..

No wonder domestic violence runs high in this nation.

Rape, spouse abuse, murder against women, its all there and adults tell us growing up 

"Boys will be boys"

No, this is not ok and we need to stand up and teach our daughters that being abused is not ok.  I have to play fight with my husband when the kids aren't around because they believed that it was ok to be mean to mommy when we did it in front of them, they are almost 7 and 9, boy and girl.  We thought at the time it was harmless fun but after hearing them talk about it, it was doing more damage than we thought.

As I was reading the article the mention of porn arised.  I admit to watching it, I think everyone has.  I am not condemning it but I also have seen the power behind it.  I watched Don Juan, it was horrible BUT it gave a great synopsis on the dangers and addiction of porn and how it defiles women.  People think that its harmless fun, brings spice to the bedroom, relieves boredom or stress, the reasons behind watching are endless but in all reality it hurts women and can cause problems with couples.  I hear men(and a lot of women) say "its just porn" 

Not really.

If anyone really has watched porn, watched the power the man has, watched women who are forced to pretend to enjoy what they are having to entail, would realize that it isn't "just porn".  I like this part of the article and agree 110%:

Men learn:
  • Women are weak.
  • Women like abuse.
  • Women like anything that a man does to their bodies.
  • Emotional investment or connection doesn't matter.

 I think that teaching our sons to respect women and teaching our daughters to love and respect themselves will change the way society thinks and acts.