Tuesday, February 24, 2015

What would we do without husbands?

I love writing about things that are important to me and when Mama Kat posted writing prompts for this week I was stoked, excited, about writing about someone who means the world to me.  I wasn't sure what kind of post we were supposed to write when it came to the word husband but I decided to write a bit about my husband.

Its not a very long story because we only knew each other a month before getting married on October of 2012 but even though we been together for only 2 1/2 years he changed my life for the better.  When I tell people that he is 6 years younger than I am I get the "ohh cougar!" comment, sometimes people don't believe it, probably because he looks older than I.

But I blame his army career and the fact he was blown up in the 2 deployments he went though.  Those things can make you older than you are.

I was married for 10 years to a man that I should never have been married to.  Ever.  We both agreed when we finally stopped arguing and got along, for once, after so many years.  We divorced in 2011 and we had 2 kids in that crazy marriage that should have never been.

But enough about that.  After a failed marriage, failed relationships, I met my husband through a guy who I thought I loved, come to find out he was not only married but had a girl on the side...yeah I was that naive I guess.  After that break up I wasn't going to go through another relationship, I mean, after so many failures why still try right?

Well, I didn't actually meet my husband until after the breakup.  My ex talked about him since they had 24 hour staff duty a lot.  I did see a picture of him and thought he was cute though!  I thought because he and my now husband worked together he would have known more about him.  I kind of yelled chewed  him out for not letting me know over numerous texts.  My friend had his number because we were trying to set them up and I had asked her to talk to him and text me.  I really just wanted to get him to text me so we can hang out, I honestly didn't care about the guy who I thought loved me, he was dirt to me after that.

The first pic he sent me when we first started texting each other..he thinks he so badass!



We decided to meet in person after a week of chatting.  He came over and never left!  I remember one day when I was at work I was chatting up a lady who told me that she just got married and only knew her husband for a few weeks.  I thought that was crazy!  I came home and told Mountain Man(one of the nicknames I call him) and laughed about it.  He said "Well, when its right, you know it."  I shrugged it off.  A few days later he was hinting marriage, I told him he was crazy because we only knew each other for a few weeks, I went through so many failed relationships I really wasn't crazy about getting married again.  I had my own place, car, job, and doing what I wanted.  He insisted.

So thats the intro to my husband.  After 2 1/2 years he still gives me butterflies, he is the love of my life, the one who I should have been with(despite the 6 year difference!).

Husbands are difficult to deal with, sometimes want to strangle, who makes you so angry, but at the end of the day you are happy to see them.

The things I love most about my husband is is that he looks at me when I talk, he strokes his hand on my cheek, kisses my head when we cuddle, and is truly a unique guy.  He is far from perfect and we argue quite a lot but it doesn't take long until we make up again.




Saturday, February 21, 2015

10 things I never knew until I was a mom

You hear the never ending phrase growing up, mainly from your mom: "I hope your kids are just like you!" Thanks for the curse mom. These are the 10 things(out of many) I learned when I became a mom:
You have no shame
What do I mean when I say that? I mean, it starts from when you gave birth. When you have your legs open to God and the world, it doesn't matter who is looking at your lady bits, you just want that kid out! After you give birth, you don't care if you are walking around in just your underwear, no bra, especially if you are breastfeeding. People come over and you don't even blink an eye that they can see your nipple even if they feel uncomfortable. As the kids get older, they figure out how to undress themselves and take off their diaper. They don't care who sees their backsides or even frontsides! My kids are 9, 7, and 10 months and I still walk around with nothing and they don't give two squats about it.
You have to hide your favorite treats Even with my 10 month old I still have to hide whatever goodies I'm trying to devour. He is already throwing a fit like a 2 year old if I even take a bite out of a cookie without letting him have a nibble. My older ones have outsmarted me so I literally have to wait until they are in bed before I even think about ripping open anything I don't want to share with them.
You can't remember the last time you shaved your legs or even put on makeup My husband hates hair on my body except my head and he has no problem letting me know when I'm getting a bit stubby. Sometimes I can get away with a week but once he starts calling me Harry thats when he's had enough of my no shaving strike. I did buy some makeup one day and he was shocked. I guess I have been letting myself go. I used to be pretty. Ok, enough of that.
You know all the words to kids shows and sing along I have not watched an episode of "Yo Gabba Gabba" since my daughter was younger. She is almost 8 now and she decided to put it on for the baby. In an instant I realized I was singing the song..all the songs on the show. All I was thinking was "wow, what have I become?"
Sometimes your kids teach you more than you teach them My oldest son is in the 4th grade. I have not been in the 4th grade since 1988. Things changed quite a bit since then. Education and expectations were a lot different now then they were then. I lived in Louisiana when my dad was in the army. Teachers were allowed to paddle where I went to school. Nowadays if the teacher even lays a hand or says any negative words they are sued. My son is learning so much more than I did when I was that age and thats when I learned that multiplication is a lot easier than I thought it was.
You say things you thought you never would say Calling your husband daddy is the most creepiest thing ever.
Sometimes you have to take a time out I honestly thought I'd never have kids, I loved sleeping, I loved to party, I loved being spontaneous. I had my first when I was 25 so I did have time to enjoy life but having kids does take away some of the things you do love believe it or not. I had this conversation with my aunt about taking time out, she doesn't think a mom should really do that but I believe if you want to keep your sanity it should be done on occasion.
Housework takes up most of your time I admit, I would rather just lay in my sweats and watch "The King of Queens"(I have a mad crush on Kevin James) all day than do any kind of housework but I know if nothing gets done then the house would literally fall apart. My husband and kids rely on me for pretty much everything. My husband can be worse than the kids but if you are a wife you know this already!
You have no privacy Oh, you want to take a bath/shower all by yourself? You better make sure the kids are in school and the baby is napping. You want to go to the potty without an audience, tough doodoo honey. You might as well get used to it.
All in all motherhood is the most rewarding, stressful, fun, and a lifelong job you will love and loathe!
Swing by Mama Kat and give her some love!

Why did I think this would be fun?!?

So, my husband has been working in East Texas for the past month and wanted me to stay with him for the week so excitedly I obliged, I mean who doesn't love staying in a free hotel? You have a maid every day to change your sheets, your towels, your garbage bin, and they vacuum! When was the last time anyone vacuumed in your house? What mom doesn't want someone to do things for them every day? The downside is is that you. are. in. a. hotel. A room with a TV, a bed, a phone, and a bathroom. Thats it. Ok, free wi-fi is always good of course. The first couple days I was like, "Ok, I can deal." The next couple days I want to strangle my husband for talking me into this, but I miss him when he's gone but 12 hours a day in a hotel with no car. No bueno baby. Its the day before I leave to go back home and I feel like I'm in a jail, which is ironic considering my husband is a correctional officer. My 10 month old is even looking at me like "Mom, seriously, I'm going to lose my mind and I'm not even 1." But overall I did have a mini-vacation away from everyone. Maybe I should have avoided facebook for the week.. That is crazy talk! Maybe I do need to go back home.

Monday, February 2, 2015

Pinterest junkie?


Who?  Me?

*ahem*

Ok..well, I guess a little..

*chuckles*

Ok.  I love Pinterest.  My husband makes fun of my addiction but he also knows I have found a lot of great recipes and things to do to spend my time with.

The last 5 pins I would have to go back and remember because once I get on, I pin to my hearts content and then have to go reorganize my pins.  A few months ago I went through all my pins, got rid of the ones I can't go into and the ones that were labeled spam.  I usually pin Chinese food recipes since my husband loves it.

Lets go into my pinterest and see what new things I found!

Carmelitas
A friend of mine used to make these all the time and I saw them the other day and wanted to make them soon.

Potstickers
My husband loves these and instead of buying them at the Sushi area of our grocery store it would probably be cheaper if I made them myself!

Work out ideas
I'm always trying to find new ways to get some exercise in daily.  I used to do monthly challenges..which meant I did them for a couple weeks then something would come up, I would forget then I'd have to double and triple them for the next few days.  I have a bunch of pins on this board and I honestly should start utilizing them!

I LOVE love love this quote.  Ever since I met my husband I live by this quote daily.  When I'm mad at him I remember this and I feel better.  This sign is now sold out but I still keep it on my pins.




This coffee cake is AMAZING, no really, you will devour it!
Iced Pumpkin Coffee Cake